Social Media: Where Did Our Manners Go?
This article was written by Parts2PCs Owner Fred Varano and originally appeared in the Wakefield Daily Item on February 16th, 2012.
Within the last few years, many of us have added an additional way to communicate with each other and businesses called social media. Whether we use some of the well-known networks such as Facebook and Twitter, or some lesser known sites, we are interacting more than ever over our electronic devices. With one click, we can now see what our friends have said throughout day, where they have been, who they are friends with, events they have attended and view pictures of all of it.
As convenient as communicating has become, one major aspect that is an ongoing concern is the lack of manners while using social media. My customers often bring up Facebook in my store during conversations, and one of the complaints I hear repeatedly is that people do not know how to properly act when they are typing on a keyboard, and I can relate to these observations. I have seen many instances when using social media where adults in their 40’s and 50’s (and sometimes older) regress to an age when they may have not “known any better” and it may have been cool to make fun of or exclude certain people from the in crowd. Unfortunately, these instances are much more common than people may realize, and hopefully we can reduce the frequency of this negative aspect with a few social media tips:
Include an introduction: In the same manner as if you were with a group of people you may not know, when sending a friend invitation, state who you are and how you may know of the person you are trying to connect with. While you may not be accessing that person’s home, you are asking to have access to much of their private information.
Have a mental speed bump (and use it): You don’t have to type the first thing that comes to your mind, every time. As most of us think before we speak, we need to also think before we type. Whether the words are verbal or written, they can have the same negative impact if they are false or hurtful. Always think about whether you would say what you are about to type to the person if you were face to face with them.
Treat people with the same respect you would like to receive: If you use social networks to criticize or put people down, then you are representing yourself in a negative manner, and can expect the same in return. If you are a positive online presence, people will want to connect with you and have an interest in what you communicate.
Have fun: Most of us get together with friends in person to have fun and enjoy the experience. The same goes for the virtual world. We all have plenty of stress in our lives, so many people view the social network experience as an escape, even if just for a few minutes. So enjoy the time conversing online with friends and just have fun with it!
Hopefully, by using some of the above tips, social networking can get back to the friendly place it was meant to be.
Tech Talk Reader Question:
Regarding October’s column about the current iPhone, Mary E. from Wakefield asks: “I have an iPhone 3G, can I upgrade to the new iPhone software?”
Mary, unfortunately the iPhone 3G cannot handle the new iPhone software, known as iOS 5. According to Apple, the iPhones that can handle the new software are the 3GS, the 4, and the 4S. The iPhone 3G would need to operate on the newest version of iOS 4.

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